Lately I’ve noticed my friends have been talking about their vaginas the way that men talk about their penises, as if they were separate entities. None of my friends refer to their vaginas as pussies. Pussies are what men think we have. Vaginas are what we actually have. Recently, my friends and I were plotting a nite of complete debauchery (clubbing). One friend dropped out of the plot as she claimed her vagina needed a rest. When another friend had her annual tuna tune-up (annual gyno medieval torture exam) scheduled the following week, she texted everyone that her vagina would be out of commission for a few days before and after this impending cataclysmic event. While I wasn’t sure why this decommissioning needed to be texted to her bff’s, I could definitely empathize…

What does this type of vagina talk mean? That our vaginas have their own decision-making capabilities regarding participation in sexual adventures or sitting them out? I’ve also noticed that we not only refer to our vaginas as separate entities, but also sometimes use slang-uage when referring to our vaginas, namely calling them vajayjays or ‘ginas or simply calling them our “J’s”. Some of my friends and I even use sign language, drawing out a swooping J, similar to the Nike logo. I have to admit, the J does resemble an artistic rendering of the clit rounding up the vagina. We use the J sign to signal that we have identified a hot guy or girl and expect to be getting laid. I assume this is the male equivalent of thumbs up, I’m getting some! The victory J!