Drunken Tweets & Rantings

February 10, 2010

So yesterday after coming home from a Haiti Fundraiser that was not well attended, i was quite peeved. Peeved that the event wasn’t produced well, peeved that the event wasn’t PROMOTED well and peeved that I had to trek all the way from NJ to Greenpoint, bake brownies and only have a few sold.

I later found out that the co-producer of the event had died a few days earlier…R.I.P. and my condolences.

But before knowing this and in my MINDSET at the time, I was drunk, angry and very cold as i had to walk in the snow to get to my apartment.

As I was stumbling through the snow very slowly because the street was moving on it own…i started checking my twitter on my blackberry.

ONCE AGAIN I found that people were using twitter to fish for compliments with the wrongdoings of their own lives. This behaivior sickens me to death.

In my own frustration and the fact that my best friend’s Irish Creme cupcakes were severly messing with my equilibrium…i started tweeting with fury!!!!

The first of my tweets were

I don’t understand why we care about what others think..just live your life and be you!!! Be happy and fruitful and sucessful!!

but the anger didn’t subside….so out came this one

Please just please stop whining about your life on twitter to get accolades from people you don’t even know!!! Omg! Drives me batty!!

I think at the point I was probably screaming in my head…if you could only hear the voices! LOL

so then @pantherapardus responded with

“It’s the way we’re wired. I think most of us need the approval of _someone_ in their lives; some more than most, mind you.”

I complete disagree (though for the record I have no problems with Panthera at all and think she is sweet), so out came THIS! LOL

that’s the way SOME people are wired though..I do what I do because I love it not because of what others may say…

however I understand that ppl are different I get offended by the constant woe is me whining on twitter, its childish.

Oh crap…I just realized I am drunk and am tweeting my inner monolouge! Lol

there is a fine line btwn ranting about something that pissed you off and oversharing that entices undeserved compliments

and this is NOT about one person rather than a mess of negativity that I’m seeing from the blogging community of late…

there are people out there with no home, ppl who TRULY struggle, look at haiti right now…there are more serious things..

Now this was more of a GENERAL response to what I was seeing happen on twitter..ESPECIALLY within the sex blogging community….I feel (and THIS IS MY BLOG AND MY OPINION, and i really don’t care if you disagree) that a portion of our community uses the blog forum as a way to cause drama and pettiness. I see it every day on twitter…hear it from gossip and read it on blogs…it’s SICKENING the way people in our commUNITY act! What happened to the UNITY and CommUNITY?????

Stop the fighting, stop the snubbing when you see each other in person, and stop the melodrama….Stop using twitter as a way to get other people to like you because YOU HATE YOURSELF.

I came across a link to a blog that i just LOVED….i love people who aren’t afraid to speak their minds and tell it like it is. Her name is Steff and she writes at http://www.smutandsteff.com. The blog of which i’m referring to is at  http://www.smutandsteff.com/2010/01/rant-fml.html

It’s called  RANT: “Whine, Whine. #FML! Fuck My Life!”

BRILLIANT!!!

ABSOLUTELY BRILLIANT!!!

I CHEERED when I read this post…if i had a cheerleading uniform and some pom poms…I would have wrote a special cheer in honor of her. It was breathtaking!

It’s true…every bit of it…the FML syndrome as I now shall call it has spread across twitter like the PLAUGUE! The amount of OVERSHARING ones personal problems to illicit attention is getting out of control.

As I said before, there IS a fine line with ranting about something that pissed you off today (which becomes relatable to your viewer) versus soliciting attention with TMI posts that aren’t meant to be viewed as a joke. I’m talking about sharing your DEEPEST and DARKEST issues.

I honestly feel that it’s invasive and rather than complaining about it and not doing anything about it, i have simply unfollowed people. I have the right to censor myself to what i do and DO NOT want to read. However I have found out that once I unfollowed people, OTHER people started doing it. It’s a twitter epidemic! What to do? I don’t want to delete my twitter account all together!

When you bring your house life into your internet life for all to see, not everyone is going to agree with what you are posting, i complete understand and get that..but when you look at the grand scheme of things, there are people SUFFERING in the world, people who don’t have a home, who lost EVERYTHING like the people suffering in Haiti. Every day I think about them. Every day I wish I could do something more and the more I am thinking about that, the more ideas pop into my head about what it is that I can do to help.

So what I am really trying to convey here is that EVERY DAY is a blessing. Especially when you have friends who care about you, a roof over your head…YOUR LIFE! Every morning should be awoken with “I am glad that I am alive today!”.  Every moment should be lived to it’s fullest!!!!

So please stop the bickering, stop picking on people like Lily on your stupid blog about freaks, stop mis-communicating and getting mad at individuals when you can open a forum for discussion, stop BLAMING people for the wrong doings of your own. Do something PRODUCTIVE and POSITIVE!!! Every day could be your last day here.

So yes…LIVE YOUR LIFE as Rihanna says, quit the formspring for approval, and just be YOU!!! Stop oversharing your private life on twitter and keep it on your blog WHERE IT BELONGS!!! Let’s all take a step in this new year to do something good for someone else! Stop caring about what others think and take pride in yourself for being a precious and beautiful individual that NO ONE else can touch! Be fabulous and glittery! Maybe wear some pasties one day! Who knows!

Ok enough ranting! I have my life to live!

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